Comments for A Man's Musings http://locke100.wordpress.com My musings and commentaries on today's values! Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:38:40 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Depression ruins a Marriage by JACK http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1505 JACK Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:38:40 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1505 I feel the same way. My wife of 14 years up and decided that she has grown apart from me and no longer loves me. She has admitted she needs help with her depression. Its been 2 months and don't know how much longer I can live with this. I love her with all my heart. I just feel like I am the only one trying. Divorce is not an option. We have 4 wonderful kids, it would destroy them if we seperated. She knows this, I know this, why can't she snap out of this funk. I feel the same way. My wife of 14 years up and decided that she has grown apart from me and no longer loves me. She has admitted she needs help with her depression. Its been 2 months and don’t know how much longer I can live with this. I love her with all my heart. I just feel like I am the only one trying. Divorce is not an option. We have 4 wonderful kids, it would destroy them if we seperated. She knows this, I know this, why can’t she snap out of this funk.

]]> Comment on Depression ruins a Marriage by Ryan http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1504 Ryan Tue, 07 Apr 2009 05:57:52 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1504 I have been married to my wife for nearly three years. I suffer from severe depression and have done so since I was 13. I am 28 now and the pain gets worse because I still face the demons of having made some bad mistakes in life,including being in an abusive relationship. My ex tormented me emotionally and sometimes hit me. For those people suffering from depression who are married,remember,YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! There is someone there who can love you through this but you have to want to rise up out of this. When we go through bouts of depression,our spouses go through it with us. For the spouses of the depressed,stay by our sides if you can. It is your love that will help us see that life is worth living,that all will be ok. I thank God for my wife,she has stood by me through all of this. But as I said,the depressed cannot do this alone though we feel alone. We should try and also seek counseling to deal with what is going on inside and find what is blocking our happiness. To all who are reading this,God Bless and you will find Peace. I have been married to my wife for nearly three years. I suffer from severe depression and have done so since I was 13. I am 28 now and the pain gets worse because I still face the demons of having made some bad mistakes in life,including being in an abusive relationship. My ex tormented me emotionally and sometimes hit me. For those people suffering from depression who are married,remember,YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! There is someone there who can love you through this but you have to want to rise up out of this. When we go through bouts of depression,our spouses go through it with us. For the spouses of the depressed,stay by our sides if you can. It is your love that will help us see that life is worth living,that all will be ok. I thank God for my wife,she has stood by me through all of this. But as I said,the depressed cannot do this alone though we feel alone. We should try and also seek counseling to deal with what is going on inside and find what is blocking our happiness. To all who are reading this,God Bless and you will find Peace.

]]> Comment on Depression ruins a Marriage by pisces http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1503 pisces Sun, 08 Mar 2009 08:26:21 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1503 I think my husband might be depressed. He has been cold, withdrawn and angry all week, since his 43rd birthday. When I finally got him to talk to me tonight, he said it was our marriage making him feel alone and unhappy. He will probably leave me. The thing is, up until very recently I thought we were so happy. He was always sweet and would speak to me so lovingly. He spoke about me that way as well, and we have always been demonstrative and affectionate. We've had issues in the sex department (because of his high blood pressure I thought) so it wasn't perfect, but it was so wonderful to be married to my best friend. We seemed so in synch. And now, it's like everything changed overnight. If it's not an affair (and I don't think it is, although I guess you really can't know for sure) could it be depression? His business is being affected by the economy and I know he's worried about money but he seems to be blaming me for everything. I just want my husband back. What can I do? I think my husband might be depressed. He has been cold, withdrawn and angry all week, since his 43rd birthday. When I finally got him to talk to me tonight, he said it was our marriage making him feel alone and unhappy. He will probably leave me. The thing is, up until very recently I thought we were so happy. He was always sweet and would speak to me so lovingly. He spoke about me that way as well, and we have always been demonstrative and affectionate. We’ve had issues in the sex department (because of his high blood pressure I thought) so it wasn’t perfect, but it was so wonderful to be married to my best friend. We seemed so in synch. And now, it’s like everything changed overnight. If it’s not an affair (and I don’t think it is, although I guess you really can’t know for sure) could it be depression? His business is being affected by the economy and I know he’s worried about money but he seems to be blaming me for everything. I just want my husband back. What can I do?

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]]> Comment on Depression ruins a Marriage by Karen http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1498 Karen Mon, 09 Feb 2009 16:32:04 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1498 I have suffered with depression on and off for 17 years. I had an extremely bad breakdown in January 2007 which I started recovering from in the last 5 to 6 months. I have been with my husband for 8 years and married for just over 3 years and 2 weeks ago he told me he wanted a trial separation, which now seems to be permanent. The main reason for this is that he says he has been unhappy for the last year, although he always denied there was anything wrong when I asked him why things were changing between us and what we could do to get back to the wonderful, loving relationship we used to have. He says that although he still cares for me, he does not love me as a wife and no longer finds me attractive mainly due to the crippling self-esteem issues I have had as a result of the events leading up to my breakdown. He says he is tired of the drama this creates in our lives and I have worn him out emotionally and he can't cope with living with me and my depression any more. Whilst I do understand this, I wish he had been honest when I asked him what the problem was, as this has made my depression even worse, as I thought I was being paranoid in thinking there was something wrong rather than being correct, as he now admits there has been a problem all along. The main point I'm trying to make here is if you don't feel strong enough to cope with a depressive (and believe me, I don't blame him or anyone else in his position), it is better to be honest sooner rather than later. It might be difficult in the short term but is much better in the long term for both the sufferer and those around them. I wish all those of you who suffer as I do and all those of you who suffer alongside us the best of luck. I have suffered with depression on and off for 17 years. I had an extremely bad breakdown in January 2007 which I started recovering from in the last 5 to 6 months. I have been with my husband for 8 years and married for just over 3 years and 2 weeks ago he told me he wanted a trial separation, which now seems to be permanent. The main reason for this is that he says he has been unhappy for the last year, although he always denied there was anything wrong when I asked him why things were changing between us and what we could do to get back to the wonderful, loving relationship we used to have. He says that although he still cares for me, he does not love me as a wife and no longer finds me attractive mainly due to the crippling self-esteem issues I have had as a result of the events leading up to my breakdown. He says he is tired of the drama this creates in our lives and I have worn him out emotionally and he can’t cope with living with me and my depression any more. Whilst I do understand this, I wish he had been honest when I asked him what the problem was, as this has made my depression even worse, as I thought I was being paranoid in thinking there was something wrong rather than being correct, as he now admits there has been a problem all along. The main point I’m trying to make here is if you don’t feel strong enough to cope with a depressive (and believe me, I don’t blame him or anyone else in his position), it is better to be honest sooner rather than later. It might be difficult in the short term but is much better in the long term for both the sufferer and those around them. I wish all those of you who suffer as I do and all those of you who suffer alongside us the best of luck.

]]> Comment on Depression ruins a Marriage by Ben http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1497 Ben Mon, 09 Feb 2009 15:14:10 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1497 I appreciate what everybody has said here. I have been dating my current girlfriend of five years and fiance of almost a year and just a week ago she called our wedding off and made it clear she no longer wanted to date. She has been taking depression meds for awhile and seeing a consuler about many things that have occured in her life. she is experiening many of the things you have mentioned above and I know like the man in the orignal post she is my one in only and I still see if in her. I don't want to lose her, but I want what is best for her. Thank you for those who posted your stories I hope it will help her know she not the only one to feel this way. I appreciate what everybody has said here. I have been dating my current girlfriend of five years and fiance of almost a year and just a week ago she called our wedding off and made it clear she no longer wanted to date. She has been taking depression meds for awhile and seeing a consuler about many things that have occured in her life. she is experiening many of the things you have mentioned above and I know like the man in the orignal post she is my one in only and I still see if in her. I don’t want to lose her, but I want what is best for her. Thank you for those who posted your stories I hope it will help her know she not the only one to feel this way.

]]> Comment on Depression ruins a Marriage by Tess http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1492 Tess Mon, 22 Dec 2008 01:33:17 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1492 I've been with my girlfriend nearly two years and we moved in together late august this year. We're both 19, and she's suffered from depression since she was 15/16. I've learned how to deal with her when she is depressed but I made the mistake of making her my #1 priority. I'm in my 2nd year of university and I've only made a couple of friends - it's destroyed my social life and I'm really suffering. My family and friends who I've talked to about it suggest I just leave her... they care about me but the fact that they say that leaves me feeling completely alone in this like nobody really understands. I just want my life and my girlfriend back. I’ve been with my girlfriend nearly two years and we moved in together late august this year. We’re both 19, and she’s suffered from depression since she was 15/16. I’ve learned how to deal with her when she is depressed but I made the mistake of making her my #1 priority. I’m in my 2nd year of university and I’ve only made a couple of friends – it’s destroyed my social life and I’m really suffering. My family and friends who I’ve talked to about it suggest I just leave her… they care about me but the fact that they say that leaves me feeling completely alone in this like nobody really understands.

I just want my life and my girlfriend back.

]]> Comment on Depression ruins a Marriage by Kristen http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1491 Kristen Wed, 12 Nov 2008 05:20:52 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/2007/05/13/depression-ruins-a-marriage/#comment-1491 I admire your commitment that you write about to your wife, how you want to allow her to receive the help she needs. I hope she knows how you support her! Two years ago I suffered a bout of major depression that scared my family because I no longer knew where I was going in life. They had always seen me as the intelligent girl who knew who she was and tried hard in school. I wish they would have learned more about it and just listened to me, not criticizing me or telling me how I should be doing things. Or let their fear keep them from growing through my pain, and I know it caused them pain seeing me. I am not married, but am currently dating a depressed man whom I understand better because of my own struggle with it. Pray that as we pursue marriage we can guard ourselves from letting our emotions rule our minds. We believe in the power of Jesus Christ to heal, who said "I have come that they may have life, and have it more abundantly"- and personnally I have found that seeking God calms my fears and allows me to heal. I admire your commitment that you write about to your wife, how you want to allow her to receive the help she needs. I hope she knows how you support her!

Two years ago I suffered a bout of major depression that scared my family because I no longer knew where I was going in life. They had always seen me as the intelligent girl who knew who she was and tried hard in school. I wish they would have learned more about it and just listened to me, not criticizing me or telling me how I should be doing things. Or let their fear keep them from growing through my pain, and I know it caused them pain seeing me.

I am not married, but am currently dating a depressed man whom I understand better because of my own struggle with it. Pray that as we pursue marriage we can guard ourselves from letting our emotions rule our minds. We believe in the power of Jesus Christ to heal, who said “I have come that they may have life, and have it more abundantly”- and personnally I have found that seeking God calms my fears and allows me to heal.

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]]> Comment on REASONS FOR WHY I’M VOTING DEMOCRAT THIS YEAR by KrsOne http://locke100.wordpress.com/2008/07/25/reasons-for-why-im-voting-democrat-this-year/#comment-1489 KrsOne Wed, 01 Oct 2008 14:29:18 +0000 http://locke100.wordpress.com/?p=107#comment-1489 Its not about Democrats or Republicans, its about who can do the job. The Democratic party has a candidate that has no experience in World politics, The Republicans do, the vice president candidate on the Democratic side has some experience but is somewhat of a Republican in a Democratic coat. On the Republican side their vice presidential candidate came out of no where and her back round and experience is not up to par as well. So it comes down to what party will get the most cooperation from the Senate and House. I only see the Republican party obtaining this. There will be more hard times and bad politics with the Democratic if they get elected, at least with the Republicans we might have a chance at rebuilding the economy. Its not about Democrats or Republicans, its about who can do the job. The Democratic party has a candidate that has no experience in World politics, The Republicans do, the vice president candidate on the Democratic side has some experience but is somewhat of a Republican in a Democratic coat. On the Republican side their vice presidential candidate came out of no where and her back round and experience is not up to par as well. So it comes down to what party will get the most cooperation from the Senate and House. I only see the Republican party obtaining this. There will be more hard times and bad politics with the Democratic if they get elected, at least with the Republicans we might have a chance at rebuilding the economy.

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